Journey of the expectant father
Today’s post was taken in a proffesional studio (New-age potraits) and is a moment in time for 2-in-love expectant parents!!
Lights … camera … action!
Its been a while since I was here but soon reasons why will be evident. My relatives would say “… sasa unafanya kazi inaonekana” (literally… “we can see what you’ve been upto!”). A few weeks from today I will become the artist formally known as “kgee”!! My wife and I are on an exciting pre natal journey with many diverse and sometimes extreme experiences … you would have to talk to me in private for the juice 🙂
In between the sometimes outrageous cravings, the supportive pot belly I have started to grow, the emotions, doctors visits, scans, looking for baby names, buying baby stuff (I never had so much shopping done for me in 1 go), maternity exercises etc etc we took sometime off to put on record this milestone in our incredible journey together. I am blessed with a beautiful wife (And am not saying this just bcoz its a nice thing to say … my wife trully is drop dead gorgeous! … ata nimelamba mchanga 🙂 … she has a heart molded with utmost delicacy and on God’s best day. Every bit of her, both in and out was shaped with finesse! There is no doubt in my mind that she will make a most wonderful mother to our children. Because of her I think I will make a good dad!
THE BABY DREAMS:
The other day I had dream, one of many I have been having of late … I dreamt that I took our baby to Cape Town Convention Center and was explaining details and how the building came together to be what it is now. Am I already seeing an architect/ engineer? Sometimes as am driving and I see people from all walks of life. Rich men, poor men, thieves, sportsmen, high flying women … I think about all of my friends, my relatives and people I have met in my journey on this planet… and I wonder to myself “who is our baby going to be like?” Is she going to be an award winning student … will we one day sit, proud parents somewhere applauding her excellence? will she make a good wife to a good man someday? will he make a father and husband after God’s own heart? Will he or she excel and be fruitful and abound in wisdom?
THE DOUBTS & THE ANXIETY:
Other times I wonder whether am a good supporting expectant father! Really its not easy being a father to be … you wish for your wife’s experience of your unborn child. Many time I see her smiling to herself. When I ask she says that the baby is tickling her from inside. How I wish I could share those baby movements 1st hand … but then again being pregnant cant be easy … what with the awkward sleeping styles and patterns?! what of the midnight snacks … the walks around the room when sleep evades you? How about the cravings, the enormous appetite, the fatigue and the extra weight? Yet we call women the weaker sex …! If men got pregnant, we would have discovered a way to give birth in under 1 month!!! I don’t doubt that! … yet in-spite of all that my wife still says “Am gonna miss being pregnant :)”
THE DAY DREAMS:
If there is one moment that constantly plays in my mind, its the day I will sit with our baby in a very quiet and serene environment … a very quiet and peaceful place. Mummy will be sleeping quietly beside us or on my lap and the 2 of us will just be staring into nothingness or at one of Gods wonderful creations. And with each passing moment my baby will just come closer and closer and find a comfortable place under my wings. Then we shall experience this amazing sunset, or this amazing waterfall or some other magical moment and I will start to explain to our baby how God created heaven and earth and all that is in them. Then after some peaceful silence I see our child turn to whisper something in my ear … “daddy … I love you!”
3 Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine
by the sides of thine house:
thy children like olive plants
round about thy table.
4 Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the LORD.
5 The LORD shall bless thee out of Zion:
and thou shalt see the good of Jerusalem
all the days of thy life.
6 Yea, thou shalt see thy children’s children,
and peace upon Israel.